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#1 - 09/15/03 08:28 PM Post wedding/honeymoon blues
n41 n41 Gold Member Registered: 02/05/03 Posts: 734 Loc: San Diego, CA	When everyone told me that I will go through post wedding blues, I thought "No way, I will be too relieved everything is over" Well, I am relieved that all the planning is over, but ever since we came back from Kauai, my DH and I are both feeling mega blah. I know I am being silly, but I woke up today feeling " I hate this small apt, I hate work, I hate all the millions of people here. (I loved how I hardly saw a sole on the beaches of Kauai). I am VERY VERY greatful for my apt and work and even though I am glad the wedding is over, I must admit, I miss the anticipation of this BIG DAY Any advise how to get over this silliness? Thanks _________________________ http://www.coachnina.tsfl.com
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#2 - 09/15/03 08:53 PM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
ValerieE ValerieE Member Registered: 08/08/02 Posts: 2153 Loc: San Diego	The week after we got back from our honeymoon I felt that way. I could not focus on work, I wanted out of our little apt. I was in a bit of a funk. I missed the planning and anticipation of the wedding, too. I think what helped me get over it is that we are trying to figure out how to buy a house, so now I have a new project. I think as long as I have a "project" to work on outside of work, I am happier. But I still do miss all the fun of planning the wedding...why do you think I am still coming to these boards? [This message has been edited by vat28 (edited 09-15-2003).] _________________________ Married (and loving it!): August 16, 2003 **Formerly vat28
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#3 - 09/15/03 09:03 PM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
ck ck Diamond Member Registered: 04/01/02 Posts: 1224 Loc: San Diego, CA	i felt the same way. i agree with vat28. a new project will do the trick. something creative. i took a jewelry class last month and it helped a lot. but i do wish i had a house i could obsess over... _________________________ Married since 4.26.03 Ethan born 9.6.05
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#4 - 09/16/03 12:23 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
looney looney Diamond Member Registered: 06/21/02 Posts: 1773 Loc: san diego	i felt the same way and agree with the others. just find something else to keep you busy and focus on all the good things in life. _________________________ married 07 June 2003 Vienna born 05 April 2005 Justine born 02 May 2007
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#5 - 09/16/03 08:56 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
TammaLoo TammaLoo Member Registered: 06/19/02 Posts: 936 Loc: Portland, Oregon	N41--I totally had the post wedding blues! I remember before the wedding I kept thinking "I can't wait for all of this to be over", and then when it was, I was like "Wait! I want to go back and do it again!". The thing that helped for me was to get involved in other projects. I worked on the house, started my scrapbook, and focused on the holidays. It's a toughie...hang in there. AND--stay on this board! We're all still brides here! Hee hee! _________________________ (ShelterIsleBride) The bliss began....11/02/02
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#6 - 09/16/03 09:02 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
Rach Rach Diamond Member Registered: 01/02/02 Posts: 4415 Loc: Orange, CA	I felt the same way too. It's only natural as wedding planning was part of our lives for so long. I found a new project really helped me forget about my wedding planning blues. We decided to buy a house shortly after and that became my new obsession, so one thing just takes over for the other _________________________
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#7 - 09/16/03 09:33 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
mspiggy mspiggy Member Registered: 06/08/03 Posts: 117 Loc: San Diego, CA	n41, i was truly relieved when my wedding was over. i got hitched the summer before my last year of my masters. it had become a full time job for me making this and that and i just wanted life to get back to normal so i could work on my thesis. about five months after, i got the post wedding blues. so my beloved and i came up with an idea to get married every year. of course future weddings won't be quite the extravaganza that the first was (maybe the 10th will be). but we have our bridal party around and we've sworn to do something rad to renew our vows every year.
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#8 - 09/16/03 10:04 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
kllyjake kllyjake Pearl Member Registered: 08/20/02 Posts: 184 Loc: san luis obispo,ca	I am in the same boat. I miss the planning and the nervous stress. I think the only thing keeping me from being in a total funk is that we are waiting about a month after the wedding to leave for the honeymoon. The wedding was August 30 and we are leaving for Hawaii on October 8. Spacing out the two big, exciting events has helped so much. I agree that I will need to find a project to delve into when we get back from the honeymoon. That should hopefully do the trick. Yeah, that and reading these boards twelve times a day- it's my therapy for the blues! _________________________
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#9 - 10/07/03 10:42 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
Sully to Duffy Sully to Duffy Member Registered: 05/09/03 Posts: 1114 Loc: San Francisco	Yay! My first post on the new boards. I am going through the blues right now, too and am glad I found this post. I knew I'd feel a little down, but I thought I could talk myself out of it because I knew to expect it. I've been back from my Honeymoon for a week and still feel kind of sad. The wedding planning was so stressful but it was also so much fun! It is hard being back without something to look forward too! I am hoping I'll snap out of it soon. _________________________ ~Formerly sully_lavalencia~ Married since 9/20/03
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#10 - 10/07/03 10:57 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
Roxy Roxy Diamond Member Registered: 12/15/02 Posts: 4977 Loc: San Diego, CA	I felt/sometimes still feel the same way. I didn't think I'd feel this way since I was started SDSU right after the HM [read: keeping busy]. I truly miss the anticipation of a big event, but I'm doing better, I guess time passing by helps! We're coming up on our two-month anniversary...n41, when was your wedding? _________________________ Our Wedding Anniversary...August 10, 2003 --------------------
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#11 - 10/07/03 05:54 PM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
hunniebunnie hunniebunnie Member Registered: 12/02/01 Posts: 1581 Loc: San Francisco	Before the wedding, DH always teased me about what will happen to me after the wedding planning's done! What will I ever do with myself and all that time????!!! To tell you the truth... I don't know... I'm into "post wedding projects"... organizing and scanning pictures, re-editing some of my wedding videos for friends and family, designing and updating our website.... so many little projects, that's preventing me from doing what i SHOULD be doing... unpack from the wedding, put away my stuff, paint the new apartment, work... instead, I found myself at Fry's electronics on Sunday buying an extra gig of memory, and 1/2 terabyte of harddrive space (that's 500 gigs of space). all those videos needs space! Not to mention I'm still behind on editing wedding videos for friends who have gotten married earlier in the summer who's weddings i filmed. Oh.. and here... just another addiction... However, immediately after the wedding, I took a week off and did NOTHING. I needed it. I really did not want to go back to work, or do anything else but veg. well, gotta go home and scan more pictures! $\:D$ _________________________
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#12 - 10/08/03 09:21 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
jello jello Member Registered: 02/20/03 Posts: 624 Loc: San Diego	This is my first post after returning from my honeymoon last weekend.....and I TOTALLY have the post wedding blues. Blah. Our wedding day was so great and the honeymoon- well I didn't want to come back! So much energy was expended in the last month or so, that now I just wake up tired and cranky. And I definitely haven't been able to focus on work yet (and I am so behind since I couldn't focus before I left for the wedding too). Glad to know that these are somewhat normal feelings. So now, I too need to find some projects. I recently started scrapbooking- so I think I will delve into that. Or jewelry making would be good. I need to find an inexpensive hobby though- especially since we are really broke from the wedding/honeymoon. Any suggestions? _________________________ ~ September 27, 2003 ~
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#13 - 10/08/03 10:57 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
Roxy Roxy Diamond Member Registered: 12/15/02 Posts: 4977 Loc: San Diego, CA	Scrapbooking is great and it doesn't have to be expensive. There's "group scrapping" at Memories in Mira Mesa which is pretty cool. There's a bunch of ladies that gtg. There's a fee or you can get a "class pass". It's cool to do scrapping with other people and you get lots of ideas looking at their books too. _________________________ Our Wedding Anniversary...August 10, 2003 --------------------
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#14 - 10/08/03 11:41 AM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
jello jello Member Registered: 02/20/03 Posts: 624 Loc: San Diego	Thanks for the suggestion Iris! I forgot that happydaisy and others on this board (?) are into scrapbooking. Think I need to trek on over to Memories and see what's up. $\:\)$ _________________________ ~ September 27, 2003 ~
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#15 - 10/09/03 01:22 PM Re: Post wedding/honeymoon blues
happydaisy2003 happydaisy2003 Diamond Member Registered: 09/10/02 Posts: 3181 Loc: Arizona	Jello, let us know if you are interested in going. Iris and I usually plan on Fridays...if we do not get distracted with other places! But you could happily join us when we go! _________________________
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